Loving Our Edges
Our 2020 Presenters
Beyond Yes and No: Collaborative Consent for Sexier SexDo you think of consent as a chore? Are you confused about how it could be sexy? Come learn how to discover shared desires, communicate in sexy ways, and open yourself and others to greater pleasure! Whether you're talking about sex, cuddling, dance, or conversation, our approach to consent focuses on mutual desire to create the most enjoyable interactions possible. This workshop will engage consent as a collaborative process for creating intimacy and pleasure as we practice identifying, voicing, and negotiating desires and boundaries. Regardless of the type of interaction, learning to make empowered choices that reflect what you really want will lead to deeper fulfillment in all aspects of your life!
Photos by Sofia Drobinskaya
Emma Delay (they/she)Emma is a body consent educator, psychotherapist, and occasional math tutor. They co-founded Consent Beyond Yes while completing their Master’s degree in somatic counseling at Naropa University. They have presented on consent and led workshops at universities, national conferences, and Center for a New Culture events. Emma has a background in PreK-12 and post-secondary education and is an Our Whole Lives sexuality education facilitator. When they're not talking about sex, they might be found dancing, journaling, or climbing trees.
Fuzzy Adam Konner (they/them)Fuzzy is a semi-nomadic educator of consent, contact improvisation, co-ops, and alternative economic and monetary systems. They are a founding member of Consent Beyond Yes, a consent education worker co-op with an orientation toward desire and pleasure. They also work as a freelance web and software developer, a worker co-op consultant with Collective Seeds Consulting Co-op, and the Executive Director of Common Good Washtenaw, a democratic community currency. They currently live in a New Culture community in Arlington, Virginia.
Heart Connection -- Developing Deeper Compassionate Self WitnessWhile our most important relationship may be with ourselves, most of us fall short in holding ourselves with true warmth. This session will introduce us to accessible frames to find our compassionate witness, take us thru practices that we can find again in the future, to find resonant language to "catch" ourselves (and others) when we fall. We'll also lean into showing bits of ourselves and seeing others as we begin to knit this community.
- Are you there?-I'm here An embodied exercise that draws on mini constellations to help us find resources that ring true for us, to be more able to locate our inner resilience when things get rocky
- In large group brainstorm and dyads/triads- playing with and applying resonant language-impossible dreams and nature metaphors
Business as Usual and a Changing PlanetMany of us struggle mightily with the world situation as it is, with climate crisis and all that might mean to humanity. This session will be an embodied exploration in community to notice what's there in each of us as we sit in the junction of business as usual, the great unraveling and the great turning. Kristin will draw on Joanna Macy's Work That Reconnects to face our own way of dealing with the losses we are facing collectively. Expect a session that leaves you feeling freer, more honest and resourced from exploring in community.
- An internally focused movement exercise that is narrated by facilitator that walks us thru relations with business as usual, great unraveling and great turning.
- Small group (3-4) open sentences that allow for us to see how despair sits in us, how we act when it isa present and where we draw resilience and resources to strengthen.
Kristin Masters is a certified CNVC Trainer from Santa Cruz, CA who is committed to using the principles of compassionate communication in addressing issues of oppression and power imbalance. Kristin has a long history of leading diversity work, mostly from models based on the work of Ricky Sherover-Marcuse, working as an associate alongside Lillian Roybal Rose for a number of years, following five years active with NCBI (National Coalition Building Institute). Kristin is committed to supporting all of us to step forward as allies and accomplices, most especially other white people to take action in the face of racism. As a leader of Joanna Macy's Work that Reconnects, she offers an invigorating and empowering approach to social change work.
Clarity BreathworkIn a Clarity Breathwork Community Session, we come together to connect with the most fundamental aspect of life - the breath - in a gentle, circular technique that opens us to new possibilities. Breathing deeply for a sustained amount of time oxygenates the body, soothes the nervous system and helps heal and cleanse the body on a cellular level, affirming greater homeostasis and harmony between body, mind, and spirit. The profound practice of Clarity Breathwork allows for states of inner peace, calm, and relaxation while strengthening the immune system and improving health.
By leading us out of the cortical control of the analytical brain, the power of the breath helps us sink-in to the unconscious, primal, and limbic levels of being where true healing can occur. Breathwork can access the energetic undercurrents of past trauma and release stuck emotional and thought patters in a safe and effective way. Breathing reminds us of our relationship with being alive in a body through the reciprocity of inhaling and exhaling, from birth to death. In a Clarity Breathwork practice, we re-connect with our innermost essence, re-membering what is most important to us by expanding our identity beyond an ego-based definition of Self and allowing authentic forgiveness, flow, love, and unity with Life to be our anchor, thus renewing our strength and will to jump up and live again with full clarity.
The session begins with a few prompts to help participants land, get present, and connect with the group. This is followed by a thorough discourse on the breathing technique and experience so that a safe, supportive container is upheld for the most powerful, transformational potential for each group.
Breathers will be lying down for the hour-long breathing portion of the session, so please bring anything needed to be comfortable such as a pad, blanket, pillow, eye mask, handkerchief, etc. A soundtrack of carefully curated music is played during the practice. Additionally, Meghan intuitively plays live instruments and creates sacred sounds to assist the process if/when necessary.
A sound bath with crystal singing bowls is offered at the end the journey, with a gradual, gentle transition out of the experience. There is an opportunity to share in a closing circle to better support integration.
Bring a water bottle and wear comfortable, layered clothing.
No experience required.
Please limit eating to at least 1 hour before the session.
Free emotional expression and vocal sounds are honored in this container with an invitation to have awareness for your fellow breathers. Catharsis is not the goal, yet whatever arises is welcome. Although I bring a trauma-informed approach, this practice is not indicated for people with histories of deep trauma that has never been addressed with previous support. It's also contraindicated for those with severe asthma, cardiovascular disease, recent significant surgeries or injuries, and glaucoma. Please talk to Meghan if you have any questions.
Meghan QuinnMeghan Quinn is a dedicated healing artist who has trained with countless teachers in various realms of bodywork, metaphysics, health, spirituality, and personal growth in her 16 year career as a healing professional. Grounded, discerning, and sincere, Meghan is a Clarity Breathwork Practitioner, licensed massage therapist, Certified Bowenwork Practitioner, Reiki Master Teacher, sound healing musician, and (soon-to-be graduated) VITA™ Coach. Her skill set addresses the interconnected nature of life through the body, breath, sound, and spirit, and she facilitates, guides, and coaches private clients and groups toward greater integration, embodiment, and empowerment. Woven through her work is Meghan's love for music, wild Nature, dance, tasty teas and elixirs, the investigation of life's mysteries, health & vitality optimization, and creating spaces of beauty and calm for people to retreat to for deep nourishment, spaciousness, support, new possibilities, and awe. After 19 years of calling Eugene, OR home, she's currently on a walkabout of discovery and deep listening, to find the fertile ground on which to plant her roots.