My first experience at Camp

by Darlene

Ah, what can I say about camp? Only that it was one of the most transformational experiences of my life~~~and I've done tons of workshops, classes, growth groups and therapies searching for a deeper connection to others and a sense of family/community and some breakthroughs that lasted. And I tell you that I found all that and more in this group of 70-80+folks in Grants Pass, OR at the 2 week 6th Annual NFNC Summer Camp this August.

Workshops I'd only read/heard about such as Naka-Ima and HAI (Human Awareness Institute) and others are permanently imprinted on my soul and I'm hooked and will keep going back. Ok, ok....enough raving (I feel a bit like a "saved" Christian must feel....ack!)

The most important thing I got was from the people, not just the ideas and techniques. The various processes, which fostered intimacy, safety, trust, honest communication, & acceptance in a group of people (many of whom had never met before) provided the space and structure for such incredible warmth and love and healing. And I don't use the word love lightly. We worked and played, laughed and cried, ate and showered, sang and danced, hugged and cuddled and made amazing love (and I mean that physically AND emotionally) and new deep friendships.

The day would start around 7am when the "gong" was rung and we crawled sleepily out of our tents (alone, in couples and groups) and made our way to breakfast. (We had 3 great vegetarian/vegan meals a day). After breakfast we came together in a huge dome for announcements and information about the day to come follwed by a workshop such as a Silence exercise or a talk called "Overcoming Walls You Never Built." Then there was lunch and a lot of time for walks in the woods alone or together, then another afternoon workshop such as an incredible presentation on Non-Violent/Compassionate Communication. Then dinner and an evening get together. Lots of puppy piles and snuggling, wild dancing (a great DJ and music) and dressing up in hilarious and often sexy costumes (I think some of the men had the most fun with this).

One of the most powerful experiences for me, during a day when the women/men spent together with same gender folk, was a role reversal extended exercise, with women initiating all contact with the men. We women had to seek out all men we found desirable and wanted time, conversation, snuggles, sex, whatever with and had to make "dates" and ask for what we wanted and the men had to just stand there and wait and say yes or no if "chosen". Whew....it was scary but I got all the "dates" I ever dreamed of with 4 of the yummiest men I never would have approached (I'm still glowing!). At one time I was snuggled in between 3 gorgeous men and thought I'd absolutely died n gone to heaven!

Anyway, then late late we'd crawl off to our tents or that of a new or old friend for some rest/play. There were many poly's in our group as well as many not that familiar to this lifestyle with many intense feelings and discussions. The camp was clothing optional which many took full advantage of (ouch those mosquitoes!) and children were welcome (6-8 kids in all who were provided constant activities and care...they didnt attend most workshops).

Many people came to heal, to fully express, to be real, to connect with new and old friends and to discover a deeper self and new way of being in the world. I left so very grounded and full of love and it HAS lasted and is deeply affecting my "real" life here at home. I had major breakthroughs and will never be the same. I more fully love and appreciate myself and all the wonderful people I met at summer camp. Words are hardly adequate to express it all....if you'd like to email me for more information feel free to do so.

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Thanks for listening to my rave....
Darlene (who is still smiling 2 weeks later)